The below information is derived from the book “Modern Dating” and the class lectures as they happen.
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Summary
Here is a summary of Chapter 6 with a bit more detail:
- Sexting has evolved with technological advancements, moving from coded language in letters to the instant sharing of photos and videos. While it offers a way to enhance intimacy, especially in long-distance relationships, it also carries risks, such as the non-consensual sharing of private content. For younger generations, sexting can be a common part of exploring sexual relationships.
- Technology has created new avenues and forms of infidelity. The privacy offered by platforms like Facebook and the ease of online chat facilitate flirting and the development of clandestine relationships. Websites such as Ashley Madison explicitly cater to individuals seeking extramarital affairs. However, online interactions create a digital paper trail, which can increase the likelihood of detection.
- The privacy afforded by personal phones has contributed to a rise in snooping within relationships. The awareness that partners have private online worlds accessible through their phones can motivate this behaviour, such as secretly checking messages, emails, and apps.
- Perspectives on infidelity vary significantly. While a survey indicated that most people would prefer a partner to confess to a one-night stand, many would still find the knowledge deeply troubling. Cultural differences exist in how infidelity is perceived; for example, the French may have a more accepting view of seeking sexual novelty, though infidelity still evokes anger. Some French couples have unusual arrangements regarding extramarital affairs, such as openly accommodating mistresses.
- The chapter also explores alternative models to traditional monogamy, such as the concept of “monogamish”, where couples establish agreed-upon boundaries for sexual activity outside the primary relationship. However, the practical implementation of such arrangements can be complex and may lead to unforeseen difficulties and relationship dissolution, as illustrated by the anecdote about Raina and her husband. The chapter concludes by suggesting that the foundation of a strong relationship lies in a deep emotional connection rather than constant excitement.